What is optimism?
Optimism is looking at a more favourable side of events and simply anticipating the best possible outcome in any situation.
Optimism is the ability to look at the brighter side of life and to maintain a positive attitude, even in the face of adversity. Optimism assumes a measure of hope in one’s approach to life. Researchers have spent a lot of time studying people who think positively. It turns out that an optimistic attitude helps us be happier, more successful, and healthier.
Teaching optimism early in young kids. As they grow older, they would need to navigate the world without letting the negatives affect them too much.
Understand the past does not equal the future: Just because you've experienced something wrong or disappointment in the past does not guarantee that what starts badly will end badly. By making these predictions you are creating self-fulfilling prophecies.
See yourself as a cause, not an effect: You don't have to be a product or a victim of your circumstances. Stop thinking about what is happening to you, and start thinking about what you can make happen. If you're not happy with the way your life is now, set goals and start to make strategies to move towards them. Use your past negative experiences to build character and make better decisions for your future.
Remember that life is short: When you feel pessimism affecting your mood or you start to feel down about the future, remind yourself that every minute in the day counts. Any amount of time spent thinking negatively guarantees nothing but less time to enjoy whatever life might have to offer. Pessimism is a waste of time, and time is a limited resource that you can't afford to take for granted.
Let go: Let go of the assumption that the world is against you, or that you were born with a grey cloud over your head. It is an assumption that has no basis in reason. Sometimes we pick up pessimism from a parent who made negative assumptions about the world somewhere along the line or a friendship group that always looks at the negative. Either way, the sooner you can attribute your pessimism to a unique set of circumstances rather than the state of the world itself, the easier it'll be to change your perspective.
Benefits of Optimism
- promotes healthy living.
- self-confidence and boosts self-esteem.
- gives room for self-expression.
- enhances effective communication.
- improves your social life.
- creates positive expectations.
- ensures you believe in your dream.
- enables you to generate an alternative, more hopeful explanation for various difficulties experienced.
- improves your physiological and psychological well being.
- creates positive anticipation of the future.
- promotes happiness.
- reduces the level of stress experienced.
- enhances various coping skills developed in order to combat life’s struggles.
- increases your level of motivation.
To Be More Optimistic: Teach Your Child Optimism
If you tend toward mostly pessimistic thinking, you can get better at seeing what's good. Here are some things to try:
- Notice good things as they happen. At the end of the day, take few minutes to run through your day and come up with things that you're grateful for. Write them down in a journal or keep track using a motivational app on your phone or tablet.
- Train your mind to believe you can make good things happen in your life. Get in a habit of telling yourself specific things you can do to succeed. For example: "If I study, I can get a better grade." "If I practice, I'll perform well at the audition." "If I go on that volunteer trip, I'll meet new friends."
- Don't blame yourself when things go wrong. What does your inner voice say when things don't go as planned? Instead of thinking, "I failed that math test because I'm terrible at math," tell yourself: "I failed that test because I didn't study enough. I won't let that happen next time!" Instead of saying, "Grace broke up with me because I'm such a loser," think: "Now I know why people say breakups are so painful, but hanging out with my friends will help me feel better again."
- When something good happens, give yourself credit. Think of what you did to make a good outcome possible. Did you prepare for the test? Practice with dedication? Think of the strengths you used and how they helped you succeed.
- Remind yourself that setbacks are temporary. As soon as something goes wrong, remind yourself that it will pass — and come up with a plan for making that happen.
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