Tips for Improving Self-Esteem in Children
Literacy issues don’t just affect kids in the classroom. They can have a wide-spread and painful impact on children. Research shows that children with learning disabilities are especially likely to suffer from self-esteem issues. As parents, we all want to be able to do something to help when our child hurts. You are the one, who can tremendously help increase your teenager’s Self-Esteem. How you mould your teenager today will decide the course of his or her life tomorrow.
Importance of Self Esteem
Self-Esteem gives a teenager the ability to face life, its challenges, uncertainty and even tackle disappointments, ups and downs of life better. Parents are the most important when it comes to building Self-Esteem in teenagers. Your support in building confidence in teens can go a long way in moulding his personality.
Tips on How to Increase Self Esteem In Teenagers
- Have them contribute. Self-esteem is boosted when children are allowed to contribute to their world and to the well-being of others. One of the most effective ways to improve self-worth and motivation is to send the message that they have something of value to offer; that they can improve the lives of others. Give your child jobs at home to encourage a sense of responsibility and accomplishment. Help her find ways to volunteer in the community.
- Be realistic. Understand what your child can reasonably be expected to accomplish. Accept the problem so that you can truly accept your child as he is. Children take their emotional cues from the adults around them. If you can accept it, it means it is acceptable. Help your child understand the nature of his learning problems as well. Misconceptions can be a great source of pain for children. Realistic expectations help her develop a sense of control – and that is a cornerstone of self-esteem.
- Teach problem-solving skills. Nothing fosters self-confidence like developing good problem-solving abilities. Help your child come up with coping strategies for dealing with daily struggles and dilemmas. Many times as parents we rush in with our solutions – often exacerbating rather than solving the problem. Ask your child what he thinks would help. If he is stumped, help him generate a list of potential responses. Try to come up with specific, workable solutions that “fit” your child’s personality. Here’s a nice problem-solving worksheet to help get you started.
- Look For Professional Help. If your teenager suffers from a severe lack of confidence and it is starting to affect his academic and/or social life, you may need help from external sources. Initially, you can try for family counselling with your teen’s favourite relatives. If the above does not work, it is best to seek professional help, which might uncover the real issue behind this lacking and help your teenager come out of it.
- Make them feel special. Just one adult who makes a child feel special and appreciated can have dramatically improved that child’s resilience – their ability to bounce back from adversity. Show your child you value her just as she is. Set aside special “alone” time with him each week – the time when phones are turned off and you are actively engaged in something he enjoys.
Teenage issues and angst are a part of your teenager’s growing up process. So be patient and help your teenager. Adolescence has always been an awkward stage where teens struggle to build their own identity, seek autonomy, and learn about intimacy and sexuality in relationships. These things all cause a certain level of angst, but they are not really new. As parents of teens, must communicate.