The 6 Most Important Life Skills to Teach Your Kids -
Throughout our life, we learn things, skills which will eventually help us to grow and survive. World is a beautiful place, full of opportunities but like everything, word has its darker side as well as struggle, failures, disappointments etc. As a parent, it’s very critical to prepare our kids for this and teach them the important life skills which will help them sail through.
So, what are the life skills?
Life skills are techniques and practices that help you efficiently understand and deal with the experiences and difficulties of normal, everyday life.
Here are some very useful life skills you as a parent must teach your kids:
How to communicate appropriately
We hear this phrase every day “Communication is the key to success”. Teaching kids about importance of communication is essential but more important is to teach that how to communicate appropriately.
Explaining kids about different scenarios, potential responses with right attitude will help them understand and solve the trickiest puzzles of communication. It will help eliminate misunderstandings and can encourage a healthy and peaceful life
How to Deal with rejection or failure
Rejection or failure is awful. And every time it visits one of your kids, it’s worse than awful. But this is the reality of life. Each one of us has faced it in life somewhere and kids will face it as well at some point of time, no matter how good they are.
Hence, it becomes very major life skill to learn and teach your kids to face the failure or rejection, identify the positives/negatives and move on in life
Encourage your kids to ask questions that help them move forward, instead of staying stuck in the reasons why something happened. “What” questions increase their ability to become more self-aware, while “why” questions focus only on things out of their control.
Parents should encourage kids to process and write down:
- What is one good thing I’ve learned from this rejection?
- What was a downside that I can be thankful is no longer my problem to deal with?
- What is one positive change I can make in my attitude about the future?
- What are some lingering negative feelings that I need to pray about and shake off to be better prepared to move forward?
Despite all this, tell them your story and how did you manage to move ahead from failures. Like Winston Churchil said:
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.
Counter their rejection by showing empathy when they come to you with feelings of doubt, sadness, and confusion. Tell them that rejection or failure doesn't define them, but rather what they do with it
A good read from Childmind: How to deal with rejection
Understand and experience different cultures
Today, we live in a global village, full of different colours, rituals, practices, food, faiths, cultures and so on.
As a parent, expose your child to as many cultures as you can. This will teach them many life skills that I am grateful for, including his compassion towards everyone, no matter their faith, rituals, culture, background, or colour of skin.
You may not get opportunity to take them every place but there are ways to introduce different cultures through food, books, online media etc.
Show respect to everyone
There are many benefits of showing respect and most important one is that it makes conversation easier. Let’s take an example, you meet someone and you greet them respectfully and in return, they greet you back. Now, you can start your conversation easily.
Teaching kids about this life skill could be challenging but you can focus on below points to make it easier:
- Respect your children
- Live with integrity.
- Don’t stoop to their level
- Praise respectful behaviour
- Spend more time teaching love than teaching rules
How to share and be generous
Kids have difficulty sharing, especially young ones. This is a normal part of the development process. Knowing and accepting this is the first step in helping your child grow up to be a generous person. The power to possess is a natural part of the child’s growing awareness.
That’s the reason, nothing is more important that teaching kids about being generous and sharing because “Sharing is Caring”.
How to apologize
Isn’t it amazing that “I’m Sorry” are just two simple words, yet pack such an unbelievable punch? They have the ability to mend a hurt just by dancing across our lips in a sincere manner. Yet, those two little words are the most difficult words for us to utter at times.
But, here is the truth,
Most of the power behind “I’m sorry” comes from the sincerity with which it is said.
Hence, it’s very important to explain kids to apologize with sincerity.
A nice one to read: How to Get Your Kid to Apologize (and Mean It!)