Parenting is an incredible yet very difficult task. It takes a lot of effort to understand the child’s mind, needs which keeps changing with time.Certain children are noticeably more reactive to certain situations than others. They are highly emotional to parents being firm with them, or things not turning out the way they want to. This leads to extreme reactions that range from extremely whiny to be completely disconnected from any conversations.As a parent, what should you do and how to deal with a highly emotional child?
Let’s understand about some signs of a highly emotional child:
Signs of a Highly Emotional Child
When it comes to a highly sensitive child or hypersensitive kids, the signs are rather apparent in their behaviour. These are on the verge of an emotional breakdown and resulting in total loss of control of themselves. It’s best to bring these signs to the attention of your child so that they, too, are aware of them.
- Whining – Once the child starts crying, they cry for a long time either in bursts or a constant whine throughout the day.
- Fidgeting – Seemingly unsatisfied with how the situation is, they will try to engage with certain objects or even their own selves, constantly moving around.
- Begging – If their demands are not met, they start begging for it and may result in dramatic behaviour around you.
- Irritation – Any conversation with them will end up with an irritated reply or an answer for no apparent reason. Any slight actions might get them upset, too.
- Disconnect – The child completely shuts off contact with you. They don’t talk, don’t respond, won’t meet your eye, and be aloof and uninterested in anything at all.
How to deal with a Highly Emotional Child
Like all human beings, children are ruled by their emotional right brain and their logical left brain. Helping children to understand and integrate both sides of their brain equips them with an invaluable tool that enables them to lead a more balanced, emotionally stable, and mentally healthy life. Here are some useful tips to deal with a highly emotional kids:
1: Make sure he feels comfortable
If your child is emotional, the first thing you can do is to make sure he is feeling comfortable. Most of the time kids having intense emotion feel helpless and out of control.
2: Don't stop or shout at them
Even your child behaviour may be unruly but wait for right moment and let him or her become calm. Stopping them while they are speaking or shouting will provoke them more and will fuel the fire.
3: Tell your story and build a good rapport
Once he or she becomes calm, ask about the problem. Tell your story or struggle and how did you manage to deal with difficult situations. The best thing is to build a good rapport with your child and it will help to explain while he is not listening anyone else.
4: Be a good example
The best way to educate your child is to be a good example. You have to show a strong sense of self control. If parents don't know how to control their emotions by getting angry or hysterical every time the childthrows a tantrum, chances are he or she will learn the same thing.
5: Identify the triggers
There might be specific patterns or scenarios that put your child in a state of emotional trouble. Talk to them to figure out what it could have been. Go through their day to recognize what else could be that they might not be comfortable telling you.Proactively, just look out for any warning signs as described above to identify the root cause and help, coach them to deal with it.
Every child is unique in their own way and parenting is a process to figure out what’s best for your child. Work together with them and let them know that you love them even at their worst. It goes a long way in strengthening the bond you have with them.
All they need is someone to understand and talk to them when they are feeling low or bad. If we as a parent, treat them with respect, the emotional outbursts will subside for sure.
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