If you’re the parent of a teenager boy or girl, you have faced this certainly. Being a parent to a teenager is no easy task. Endless argument is the common problem faced by most of the parents and teenagers.
Teenagers want to become independent. So, they don’t like the interference of their parents. If parents try to interfere then teens start arguing with their parents. To avoid arguments, parents should be calm and relaxed. Give him equal chance to express his feeling properly. Don’t interrupt him when he is speaking. Your child is not as mature as you. You should improve your communication skills in order to stop argue. If your child doesn’t like to make discussion over a certain topic then you should not force him to speak. It will encourage your teen to argue.
Talking to your teen as you may have when they were younger, expecting them to listen and obey your rules, rather than negotiating towards a mutual agreement and isn’t likely to work anymore. It can be much more helpful to learn to talk with your teen so you can figure things out together.
If you feel an argument could be about to develop, you may find it useful to stop and give a thought to following:
What is it actually? Not every argument is worth having. If your teenager is simply in a bad mood or letting off steam, your best course of action may be to simply give them a little time to cool off. Teenagers are emotional! If you’re reacting to every little incident, your relationship can become like an emotional battleground! Remember who the adult is.
Give them attention:Teens need attention and freedom to speak their thoughts feelings and opinions. Listen to what your teen has to say. If they feel respected, they’re much more likely to listen to you in turn. Remember: they aren’t children anymore. They’re more likely to react positively to being asked for their opinion than simply being told yours.
Negotiate, it helps: If you and your teen are coming up against each other over something, try to be reasonable and balanced. Just because you don’t agree with each other doesn’t mean you can’t find a solution. After they’ve explained their position, hear and take on board what they’ve said before explaining yours. Speak calmly and kindly. It can be useful to use ‘I’ phrases – such as ‘I feel’ or ‘I think’ – rather than ‘you’ phrases – like ‘you always’ or ‘you seem to think’. This will help your teen feel like they aren’t being attacked.
Take a look at your own feelings: Try to recognize your own emotional responses to arguments. Taking account of any feelings of anger and managing these is an important part of having a proper conversation – and will serve as a good model to your teen for how to healthily deal with emotions.
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